So this morning I did my morning chores, then ran in, grabbed my cup a coffee, sat down and enthusiastically started to read morning blog post from my favorite bloggers. I love hearing every one's stories,what they are doing, where they are going, opinions (even if they aren't the same as mine). I love reading other peoples perspectives. I try to take something away from every single person. And this morning that is exactly what I did... or should I say, that's what I didn't do...
I was reading this other blog this morning (one I typically enjoy) and for the first time in my blog reading history I actually somewhat ended up with hurt feelings (I am not even sure if that is right description). But anyways the kicker was I couldn't pinpoint the actual line offense other than what was written between the lines. I am not going to name blogs here. No, its not on my list of followings and I will not be direct in stating what was actually said as my intentions are not to cause a disturbance because I know this fellow blogger had absolutely no intentions to be offensive and quit frankly I really should have tougher skin. I mean, after all I live in area of the south that has its fair share of chauvinist. My point is this post isn't about a pissin' match but just me, hashing out my thoughts.
So anyways, this mornings blog read something along the lines of what I will call, "positions in society", the roles that men and women
should play in society. This post really got to me on the stand point that after reading it, I felt inferior. I am not sure why this ate at me so much other than I am compiling my emotions to the fact that I am almost out of feed and I absolutely dread having to deal with the old school farmers that sit around with smirks on their faces and make comments as I walk through the doors as the feed store. So I suppose in a sense... this "read" this morning was the final straw. I could no longer fight it... it was time to self reflect.
So I "reflected" most of the day. Wondering, what role
exactly should a woman play in today's society? Is it bad that I technically am clueless as to what a woman should be!? Am I not a lady because I love to be outdoors? Nothing makes me happier than to be covered in mud and rain. Am I not a lady because I would rather be in the wood shop with my dad than in a department store? Am I wrong that I actually enjoy cleaning out culverts and chasing down hogs? Am I not teaching my daughter to be a proper lady because I respect and admire her for the fact that she would beg and plead for a fishing rod over a barbie doll any day? Am I wrong? These have been the nagging thoughts in the back of my mind all afternoon. Have I been wrong not to strive to be what
one would call a
proper lady?
With all these questions swimming in my head, I decided to ask my husband what he thinks a proper woman should be. He reluctantly smiles and asks "why". I tell him the story and my nagging thoughts. Then in the simple wise words of my husband, he states, "opinions are like assholes, baby. Everyone has one". Okay... so not really the answer I was looking for but yeah.. okay. I will roll with that. "So seriously", I asked him "what kind of asshole are you then!?" I think he kept it simple in fear that he was about to step on a land mine but once he seen that there was no turning back and that yes I did come in peace, he said "I think a woman should be what ever they want to be, what ever their
capabilities allow them to be". Good answer Lee! Good answer! I have to say that is exactly the way I feel as well. Not every woman can drive nails, ride bulls, or drive a stick shift. Lord knows I cant... but to the ones who can, that's exactly what you should do!
So after a day reflection, what is
my conclusion? I'm still not sure what role I
should play, what type of woman I
should be. But one thing I know, isn't who I
should be but
who I am.
Who I am, is the kind of woman that will always have to quietly prove myself in order to gain respect. I am the woman that absolutely dreads walking into the feed store but still walks through the crowd of men drinking their morning coffee with my head held high because I simply love what I do. I am the woman that politely listens to every minute of some old farmer give me bad advice, and then in turn I just do what ever in the hell it is that I want to do. I am the woman that loves what I do... not because I was told to but because that is
just who I am...
As this evening is drawing to a close my final thoughts on this subject is this, even if I knew exactly how to be a real proper woman... I just don't think I have it in me to make those kind of changes...
Be prepared, my daughter just like me.... ;)